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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • Prepared to be roasted alive for this opinion but studies (undoubtedly of white, middle class, US undergrads) seem to indicate women find clutter and messes more psychologically distressing than men do.

    I’m a man but I’ve had many deadbeat guys as roommates and I am definitely far more bothered by messes and clutter than they were so I kind of get this.

    If you are the “mind it more” person, you will find yourself rage cleaning because the other person can wait you out as long as they want if they are taking you for granted and not concerned you’ll leave over this.

    So there are two toxic traits here:

    1. A willingness to wait out chores even if you know it’s angering people you are with.

    2. A kind of willful blindness. “Honestly, I didn’t think it was that bad.”

    The second one might be worse.

    The first is excusable (plausible deniability) with the “men are oblivious” defense if the aggrieved party is not being overt in their request that a chore be done.

    The second is a person (some women obviously do this, too) refusing to learn to empathize and recognize when things are getting to the point where it’s bothering the other person. From an interpersonal perspective this is probably more infuriating over the years.




  • Look, I hate the guy, but that is how you bandage an ear.

    People got shot so that parts real.

    He could have been nicked or he could have caught it on a sharp point bending down or he could have cut it with a fingernail.

    My money is on the fingernail. He’s probably on blood thinners. He’s probably got thin, brittle skin. He probably clawed at his ear when the bullet whizzed by.

    He could easily have nicked it. A nick can bleed like crazy and also heal very fast.

    From there it’s all spin…

    The simplest explanation is probably this given how fast it healed, I guess.











  • I have a beloved swatch from the nineties I am trying to expand the band on for my brother (he has MS so I’m trying to help with this as he has a hard time with phone calls, emails, and so on). Even swatch said all they could do was provide a larger band which was the same size (I am out $50 and they are not responding to my emails asking for a refund or replacement).

    I’d love advice on this too!


  • I have signed several of these. If you do it on company time or with company resources, it’s theirs. If you do it on your own time with your own stuff, it’s yours.

    You may or may not be shocked to learn how many “personal projects” get done when people are supposed to be doing the work they get paid for or with resources they are effectively stealing from their employer. This isn’t some evil corporate attempt to steal your brilliant work. They are trying to make sure that when you are at work using their stuff you are doing your actual job.

    If you have your own things you want to pitch as products you will be giving over the rights to that the minute you work on it on company time with company resources.

    If your ideas are good, save money, quit, start a start up, and use your connections to make a good deal with them (sell it to them). Or wait until you are a vested shareholder.



  • As a developer, I am absolutely amazed that any of this (all the software you are using, all of it) even works a little. So: no.

    I independently came up with “federation” (as in thought of it but not exactly this, and was building on others work) as the basis for a masters thesis in the early 2000s but left the program to get a job so never saw it through.

    So, no, I am not annoyed. I am amazed, grateful, impressed, and humbled but I am not annoyed.


  • I was about 8. My brother and cousins in their late teens (almost certainly stoned) were hanging out with me while our parents enjoyed a few drinks. This was normal at the time. There was even indoor smoking then!

    Anyway, I’m reading the D&D Monster Manual I got for Christmas and am telling them about dragons. I explain there are dragons that can shoot out clouds of poisonous gas and accidentally let a fart go that I’d been desperately holding in for a while at that point.

    Still the biggest laugh I’ve ever got and it really was an accident.

    We were not the kind of family where anyone let on go in public so it added to the hilarity.