Better days lay ahead, keep me posted 😇. Remember, just stick to step 1 and update me when you’ve tackled that. I’ll DM u now just to make contact

I understand, that sounds incredibly harrowing.

I’ll leave you with step one which is

1. find a listing for a room in a safe place thats away from your partner and preferably close to work or within commuting range.

Thats all you need to think about for now, just do that for me and keep your chin up best you can. Night 🤫 stay safe

My conjecture is you don’t need to cut out fats, you should consider or try minimizing carbs and sugar and consequently try eating what you want provided you use

• small plates and serving containers so you are conscious of seconds and also not trying to finish an unnecessarily larger plate or bowl that encourages overconsumption
• replace with fats and proteins in that order to keep you full and energized
• stay on the borders of the grocery store in general because thats where the boring healthy stuff is

Maybe consider getting one of those zippered folio type wallets that you keep at home or in your car (one stable location) to be the master card storage place and get a wallet case for your phone for the most important common cards you need to keep on your person at all times. Get that AirTag and keep it in the folio, then use the wallet case for your phone as you go about everyday which houses your iphone which you can track in itself because its an iPhone or whatever

Might I suggest debt should be the last of your worries? Is there any way you would consider filing for bankruptcy or consumer proposal after and only after you get your housing sorted out and you get settled in?

The retiring thing is something that you may need to take a step back from for now and prioritize getting out of there and getting reestablished. Even if worst case scenario you never end up being able to swing retirement, the peace and functionality you will gain being out of that environment you’re in far outweighs the compromises you may have to realistically establish.

Does your rental have last month’s rent paid up?

I’ll be honest with you: what you have described as your living situation is horrifying and I want you to understand that many people have likely been even more poorly resourced when they made that decision to get out or their hand was forced.

Have been in a bad living situation myself I had to get out of and I didn’t even have a car! 😅And tons of crushing debt to boot. But I found a room, luckily had my rent deposit saved cuz last month’s prepaid and I hired a random guy to help move my shit and pet. It sucked not having my own place but I needed to get stabilized and back to work so it was a lilly pad I needed to nest on temporarily until I bided my time and was ready to apppy for my own apartment.

I’m curious if you could look on your local classifieds website/Craigslist or whatever and see if there’s someone who needs a roomate in a place you can deal with and make that your first baby step towards getting the heck outta there?

If you have your job secure, thats an enormous advantage :) It will be the lever that helps you jaws of life yourself out of this economically and as a support

Your hopefully soon to be ex partner sounds like they are going to be absolutely fucked when you ditch their sorry ass for safety 😅 But you dont have to worry about them, just need to focus on your next moves and the chessgame necessary to get all the pieces in place to checkmate yourself out that game

Can you break down that number a bit more? What are all the things that add up to that?

Whats the magic amount of money that you estimate you need?

Whats your current housing situation, rent or own?

dont have an answer that isn’t a bad one

Thats ok, seriously tho, you mentioned at some point you’ll basically snap [or he will in some horrible fashion it sounds like]…What do you think happens?

The issue is its going to happen at some point and you’re almost certainly not going to be in a better position to deal with it then.

What would have to be true or in place to make it possible for you to entertain simply leaving? I know it sounds outrageous but just roll with this for a moment…Pretend there’s a fire and you made it out with your dog(s). What do you do next?

List all the reasons your situation is inescapable if you could so they are explicit

Ok, then what happens? Theres a point to this, lets take it a bit further

Pretty sure fibre is usually a good thing for digestion, isn’t it?

And teeth!

Its like nature’s g-string

🫢

Not like that

How do you honestly see things playing out/ending?

Are you dipped in the Apple ecosystem at all? Might be worth it to get ApplePay and AirTags setup so you can keep tabs on the actual physical wallet betterwith AirTags and use ApplePay to minimize the amount of movingcards in and out creating opportunities for loss.

Wallet cases can be helpful if your phone has one that is designed for it on the market

I’ll bear that cross, i don’t need to defend subjective goodfaith curiosity

Fuck xitter

Evwrybody likes to feel useful

Does this mean Woodward was probably closeted?

In a manner of speaking, yes