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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • The final purpose is to be happy with someone. With or without kids.

    There is no true underlying purpose to a relationship. There are adventures to share together if you are both into them. But there doesn’t need to be some ulterior goal. Dating is just enjoying and wanting to spend time together.

    Did you have another Lemmy account on leminal.space? If you did and are the same person I’m thinking of. You spend A LOT of time thinking and talking about relationships. And that account always came across like they wanted a relationship but didn’t want to put in any work to get one or work on themselves. They always spoke as if there was no hope and already prejudged women as if they never would like them.


  • This was a big deal when I started dating my current girlfriend. On quite a few occasions when planning dates or things for us to do with her daughter, I would bring up her daughter and think of her first before I thought of myself or my girlfriend. Or if my girlfriend would mention something about her daughter, I would always encourage her to take care of her daughter first and we could work out dates around her.

    I knew that her daughter was her first priority, and I never asked her to put me before her daughter. Not once. It’s almost 3 years later, they moved in with me. And I’m loving the life together.














  • I still remember what my mother said to me when I got a girlfriend. “Use a condom.” That was it. No pretending it wasn’t going to happen.

    As for drugs, my family never liked them. They never told us kids, but my father had an issue with opiates that’s cost him his job and medical license. My older brother also had an issue with opiates.

    I used to do a lot of research on erowid on drugs. Between my brother and I it was a lot of don’t be stupid, do your research on what’s safe and what interacts with each other, and stay away from opiates.

    For the most part, it wasn’t talked about much in my family, other than my older brother my younger brother and I didn’t gravitate to them too much or hang with people who did. I ended up getting really into weed for a short time, because that’s where my ADHD hyper focus hobby was for a few months. Then I realized I didn’t like not being sober that much.