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Cake day: December 28th, 2023

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  • Do. Not. Go.

    As much as your son wants you to go, as others have said, you’d be giving him some very messed up ideas on how relationships work, and there are waaaasay too many chances of something happening and causing unforeseen problems.

    I would explain that you’d like to go to spend time with him, but you’re not in a place where that is a healthy decision to make and for the sake of your mental health and continued healthy relationships all around it’s best for you not to join. It will hurt both of you emotionally, but it’s probably the best long term choice. If necessary, you can throw in a ‘next time gadget son’ in there to show this isn’t how it always will be.








  • Tools like restic and Borg and so critical that you will regret not having had them sooner.

    100000%

    I just experienced this when a little mini PC I bought <2y ago cooked its nvme and died this month. Guess who has been meaning to set up backups on that guy for months?

    Unfortunately, that nvme is D. E. D. And even more unfortunately, that had a few critical systems for the local network (like my network controller/DHCP). Thankfully it was mostly docker containers so the services came up pretty easy, but I lost my DBs so configs and data need to be replicated :(

    The first task on the new box was figuring out and automating borg so this doesn’t happen again. I also set up backups via my new proxmox server, so my VMs won’t have that problem too.

    Now to do the whole ‘actually testing the backups’ thing.